What Happened To You?

What’s the typical reaction when someone comes out? :-

“No you’re not.”

“There’s no such thing as being gay.”

“Where did I go wrong?”

“What happened to you? You were normal till yesterday.”

“What happened to you?” “This isn’t you.” “It’s just a phase.” You know what these direct at? CHANGE Anyone telling you these things is asking you not to change, which they have no right to do. You are free to change your mind and change it again, for change is the only constant. It’s your life and your decisions. Change is unexpecting. Change is sudden. People hate change because they don’t want to lose control. Don’t be one of those people because change is inevitable and you need to be able to deal with it.

“Wait so you were into girls, but now you’re saying that that didn’t mean anything and you’re actually into guys. Make up your mind!”

You have to do no such thing. The only person you have to answer to is yourself. There is no obligation for you to stick to one decision. Don’t worry if you’re 16 and you have no idea what you want to do in life. Don’t worry if you’re 25 and decide to change your job. Don’t worry if you’re 40 and you just realised you’re not who you thought you were.

Dont rush to make decisions. Be it college majors, career options, sexuality or gender preference, you have a lot of time to discover yourself. Exactly how much time? Your whole life. 🙂

 

The T in LGBTQ

Suppose you bought a pink dress, but later realise that you wanted the purple one, what do you do? You get it exchanged. If like this, we change every aspect of our lives to suit our wishes and desires, why can’t we change something that plays a pretty big part in how we see ourselves? A transgender is a person whose gender identity differs from their assigned sex. We question everything given to us. Is it such a big sin to question our gender?

 

“I’m a boy.”

“But you have boo”

“I’m a boy.”

“But you look”

“I’m a boy.”

“But”

“I AM A BOY.”

 

We whine and we cry when we don’t like a particular state of things. But we also look the other way, pass comments and disapprove if someone comes and tells us that they’re not happy with the gender they’ve been assigned.

 

No it’s not just a phase.

No it’s not confusion.

No its the influence of the media.

IT IS WHO I AM.

 

No matter what, be who you want to be. When you look in the mirror, you should see a person who’s 100% made of your choices. Not even 0.000001% of your personality should be because of someone else. You are you. You are awesome.

 

 

 

 

Take A Chance

Can I go slightly off-track? I know this blog was meant for LGBTQ+ empowerment, and I promise you it is! I will get back to writing to spread awareness and encourage people to accept themselves for who they are even if the society disagrees. But right now, I just need a platform to vent my feelings and thoughts.

I don’t want to regret anything, and I’m pretty sure no one else does either. I’m not saying live on the edge and do every single thing that pops into your head. What I’m saying is, never give up a chance for which 10 or 20 years later you might ask “What if?”.I know, it’s easier said than done. You don’t want to ask something because you don’t want to sound stupid. You don’t want to point out the wrong because you don’t want to lose anyone. You don’t tell someone you like them because you don’t want to get your heartbroken.

But do yourself a favour and have faith. Not in god, not in destiny, but yourself. Take a chance. If it works out, your life can get a whole lot better. If it doesn’t, and it starts to feel like your life is spiralling down into a black hole, have faith that you will come back with a bang only to accomplish the task. Have faith that you will never give up on yourself. Have faith that sooner or later your handwork will pay off. Have faith in yourself.

So take a chance. Break down the walls. Speak up. Let it go. Out of all the things you have to lose, don’t let yourself be one of them.

Scared To Come Out

For centuries, people have been ‘coming out’. They have realised that they are not who they have been told to be. It’s the 20th century and yet here we are, still considering the LGBTQ+ community to be confused or even diseased. No wonder most of them are still too scared to come out. Scared to be shunned by society. Scared to be ridiculed. Scared to be abused. No one, absolutely no one should live in perpetual fear.

So how do we get rid of this fear? Since the problem mainly arises from the narrow mentality of the society, the solution is to change this mentality. We need to open our minds and be more accepting. We need to assure the LGBT people that with us they’re in a safe place to openly be who they are and  together we can change the state in the world. Even one person who makes up their mind to do the same can help so many people around them that they’ve know for years but missed out such a big aspect of.

Being gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, transsexual,pansexual or in short ‘queer’ is a matter of personal identity. It’s a pride not a shame. Coming out is a self disclosure of ones sexual orientation or of their gender identity. Not a risk that one takes, but just facing the truth.

And finally, if you are a member of the LGBTQ+ community always remember to come out to yourself before coming out to the world. Take pride who you are for you have nothing to be ashamed of. It is not a choice, it is who you are, Accept yourself and figure yourself out for you. You are perfect the way you are and never let anyone tell you otherwise.

We spend our entire lives trying to figure out who we are. Sometimes we’re even pressurised by the ones around us to come to some conclusion. But once we do, not all of us are accepted for who we are. How is that fair?

People use all the courage they have to break barriers and come to terms with who they truly are only to be shunned by society for not being ‘normal’ What is normal anyway? According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary normal means confirming to a type, standard or regular pattern, and even in this day and age, we consider heterosexuality and cisgender as normal just because it’s more common.

All human beings are born equal in dignity and rights, but are the people who identify themselves as gay, lesbian , bisexual , transsexual, pansexual or anything that comes under the category of ‘queer’ really enjoying the dignity and rights they’re entitled to? Harassment for being ‘different’ has become so common that they see the need to create a community to feel safe. And this very need suggests the requirement for a major change in our society.

Legit-it is an attempt to move one step closer to this change. It will both help people come to terms with their identity and create an awareness to broaden people’s minds into becoming more accepting. So let’s come together to be the change we want to see in the world .